Separate Realities: Managing Expectations
Having taken part in Chana’s Relationship Programme several times, I am so delighted to be part of the conversation again. Each time I listen, I hear something new and can say with sincerity that this course has helped me interact with my loved ones on a deeper level.
Understanding moods in relationships has helped me to find compassion for my husband and children and I am now able (most of the time), to see the humanness in them when they are in a low mood.
I now realise that I am not a victim of their anger or upset and that I do not need to take the words that are said in the heat of the moment too seriously. Instead, I can make a better choice to show them love, in times of their mental struggle and help them come out the other side quicker, which never fails to lead to a speedier resolve and a more meaningful connection without conflict.
The subject of separate realities is another area where this course has helped me have a gentler experience of life. I am now much more aware that we are all living in our own realities and even though you can be experiencing the exact same activity as another person, you may both be having entirely different perspectives on the shared event. This realisation has helped me to have a greater understanding of the people around me and helps to manage the expectations of my loved ones.
I see clearly now that expectations are not of service to us and are a complete manifestation of what we think we need or want at any given moment. To drop all expectations and turn towards hope instead, leads to a life without disappointment and helps you to remain in a good feeling for longer.
I have endless gratitude for being given the opportunity to take part in this course and be privy to this content. I know there is so much more to see, so many more insights to be had and I am excited to keep developing personally and to continue to enjoy easier and deeper interactions with all the people around me.